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I just started dating a wildland firefighter, he's been gone almost 3 weeks now and hasn't contacted me, I don't mean to be needy not selfish but as I am new to all of this ...is this something thys happens or did he just completely ghost/disappear/leave me hanging. I mean how hard would it be to just send a txt saying he's ok :/ I'm so confused
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Usually most husbands will contact their spouses from the fire assignment. However, I know they get busy and tired. Does he have a cell phone? I'd send him a little text "Thinking of you" or "Love You" and see if he responds. Technology has made it easier for contact on both sides. Hopefully you'll hear from him soon. Do you know what incident or area he's assigned to? Do you know any other wives or girlfriends of anyone on his crew?
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I doubt he meant to just leave you hanging or anything like that! Often times they work so long that by the time they even get a chance to send you a text or something they just pass out. Also, he could be in an area where he doesn't have service. I know my boyfriend will call or text me when he can but sometimes he just doesn't have service or is just so tired that he kinda forgets, and he usually will turn his phone off during the day to save battery power too. It's hard sometimes to constantly keep in contact with the line of work that they do. If you really like him then you just have to be understanding and supportive and I'm sure he will appreciate that! Sometimes I'll just send my boyfriend sweet little texts and I know he will get them whenever he gets them.
Sorry, but 3 weeks for a newly dating couple would be a little long in my book... there's always ways of getting some kind of communication out. Where there's a will there's a way.
He may be on a fire where he doesn't have service. I will go weeks without hearing from my WFF simply because they fight fires sometimes in really remote areas where cellphone service just isn't a thing.
I too can relate to you, OP. I'm in a new relationship with a FF, who is also the EOC for his city. Anytime (Every time) there is a disaster somewhere, he is always called up and deployed. So far this spring, he's been to 360 Complex, the Alberta Canada Fires, San Gabe Complex, Erskine, Santa Barbara, & Sand Fire. Since he's the only EOC in his city, there is no one else to delegate his regular responsibilities, when he's deployed. I haven't heard from him now in over 1 month. I text him at night and have reached out to him 2x on the phone. All I want to know is that he's alive and safe. I can't fault him for not telling me this is usual in his line of work, but it does press on my mind quite a bit.
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